The mark of true love lies not in the fact that your partner loves you personally simplicity, but in the fact that as a consequence of the love they have for you, they are eager to adopt everything that is associated with you into their inner circle.
It is impressive if your partner says to you, "I love you." But it is much more a proof of a true and deep sitted love if they look you in the eye and say, "as a consequence of my love for you, your family is from now on my family; your parents are now my parents; your siblings are now my siblings; your friends are now my friends and your enemies are now my enemies."
Beyond that:
"Your God is now my God; wherever you go I will go; where you lodge, I will lodge; wherever you die, I want to die and sincerely I wish we can also share the same burial space. May the Lord deal with me hardly if anything but death separates me and you."
I will counsel any intending couple that if their love for one another is not strong enough to make them adopt each other's parents, siblings, faith, and geographical location (which can change from time to time in marriage) then that love is not strong enough for a marriage that will last.
There are too many marriages of convenience in our society today that are not founded on any form of sacrificial love and adoption. If you love him but you don't love his parents, or some of the siblings, don't marry him at all. Just leave him alone. Don't hope to marry him while you plan to avoid the family. Love cannot be partial. It's either hundred percent or nothing. And for the umpteenth time, no true love can love a product and detest the producer.
If you can't adopt his God as your God (provided he's serving the living God), your love is not strong enough. If you don't love your partner at the end of your courtship to the point of saying, "wherever you go from now on, I will go," then please your love is not strong enough for marriage. Release each other to go. Today we've seen so many spouses who refused to relocate with their partner when a change of location was necessary for the family especially in answer to the call of God or where the new location was going to be a more challenging place to live in. And this was how many of these marriages began to disintegrate.
For a marriage that will last, adoption must cut across these three spectrums: Family, Faith, Physical Location (which can change from time to time as the vision of God for the marriage progresses).
Couples counseling app - Much of our satisfaction depends on our ability to create and maintain meaningful and mutually fulfilling relationships. Our attachments to partners can be a great source of love, comfort, and pleasure. Emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy together forms the foundation of our bond.
When relationship conflict surfaces, whether because of a communication breakdown, finances, work stress, infidelity, or other issues, it’s important to remember that there are options.
When couples have the right skills to communicate and connect with each other emotionally, they are able to gain support and strength through their relationship and turn to each other to manage life stressors together, rather than have the relationship be a source of stress.
If your marriage is going through a rough patch, you may be considering couples’ counseling. It is a good idea: research shows that couples’ counseling can be a beneficial tool to help couples identify negative patterns in their marriage and, more importantly, correct these patterns before the marriage is beyond repair.
Even if a couple ultimately decides to split, spending some time in couples’ counseling sessions is helpful. It provides the two individuals a safe place to unpack their issues with a neutral third party guiding the conversation towards a productive solution.
It is impressive if your partner says to you, "I love you." But it is much more a proof of a true and deep sitted love if they look you in the eye and say, "as a consequence of my love for you, your family is from now on my family; your parents are now my parents; your siblings are now my siblings; your friends are now my friends and your enemies are now my enemies."
Beyond that:
"Your God is now my God; wherever you go I will go; where you lodge, I will lodge; wherever you die, I want to die and sincerely I wish we can also share the same burial space. May the Lord deal with me hardly if anything but death separates me and you."
I will counsel any intending couple that if their love for one another is not strong enough to make them adopt each other's parents, siblings, faith, and geographical location (which can change from time to time in marriage) then that love is not strong enough for a marriage that will last.
There are too many marriages of convenience in our society today that are not founded on any form of sacrificial love and adoption. If you love him but you don't love his parents, or some of the siblings, don't marry him at all. Just leave him alone. Don't hope to marry him while you plan to avoid the family. Love cannot be partial. It's either hundred percent or nothing. And for the umpteenth time, no true love can love a product and detest the producer.
If you can't adopt his God as your God (provided he's serving the living God), your love is not strong enough. If you don't love your partner at the end of your courtship to the point of saying, "wherever you go from now on, I will go," then please your love is not strong enough for marriage. Release each other to go. Today we've seen so many spouses who refused to relocate with their partner when a change of location was necessary for the family especially in answer to the call of God or where the new location was going to be a more challenging place to live in. And this was how many of these marriages began to disintegrate.
For a marriage that will last, adoption must cut across these three spectrums: Family, Faith, Physical Location (which can change from time to time as the vision of God for the marriage progresses).
Couples counseling app - Much of our satisfaction depends on our ability to create and maintain meaningful and mutually fulfilling relationships. Our attachments to partners can be a great source of love, comfort, and pleasure. Emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy together forms the foundation of our bond.
When relationship conflict surfaces, whether because of a communication breakdown, finances, work stress, infidelity, or other issues, it’s important to remember that there are options.
When couples have the right skills to communicate and connect with each other emotionally, they are able to gain support and strength through their relationship and turn to each other to manage life stressors together, rather than have the relationship be a source of stress.
If your marriage is going through a rough patch, you may be considering couples’ counseling. It is a good idea: research shows that couples’ counseling can be a beneficial tool to help couples identify negative patterns in their marriage and, more importantly, correct these patterns before the marriage is beyond repair.
Even if a couple ultimately decides to split, spending some time in couples’ counseling sessions is helpful. It provides the two individuals a safe place to unpack their issues with a neutral third party guiding the conversation towards a productive solution.
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